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Monday, April 21, 2008

The Birth Plan

As you know, David and I took a Lamaze birthing class. Among other things, we were encouraged there to come up with a birth plan and share it with our caregiver. I looked online for info on writing one and found that every pregnancy site encouraged parents to share their birth plan with their doctor. So, Dave and I came up with one last night and made a few copies of it.

We took our carefully thought-out plan to the OB appointment today. After checking on the baby, I handed my doctor a copy of the plan. Right then, Dave noticed the corner of the doctor’s mouth turn up like he was trying not to laugh. The doctor then patted me on the hand, smiled, and said, “Give this to the nurses when you go to the hospital. We’ll take good care of you, don’t you worry.” Right then I realized we were being “the first-time parents.”

Dave and I left the clinic a little embarrassed but chuckling at our newparentness. I should have further tickled my doctor’s funny bone by telling him we took the liberty of having his copy notarized.

Why are we told to make a birth plan if no one really takes it seriously?

17 comments:

Summer Adams said...

Ok, you're singin' my song girlfriend! I did the SAME thing and they thought I was ridiculous. WHY??? It's such an important event. That was disappointing. So, the next time around I made out a plan and also a list of "to do's" and a list of "not to do's" (ie - no talking sports while I'm in labor, no being sarchastic, etc...ha ha ha) and those lists were not for the dr, not for the nurses, but for Josh. Then when he broke a rule I said, "where's your list? stick to the list so that I don't kill you (LOL)!" He said, "Oh, where did I leave that. I know you printed it out for me but I forgot to read it and bring it. WHAT????? anyway, just thought you'd appreciate that little story ;-) At least you and Dave are on the same page :) Y'all will do GREAT!!! No doubt!

TheOrttFamily said...

Oh you first time parents kill me....hahahahaha...not to sound rude...I guess I never did that because I was so young and had my mommy to take care of me..I mean what is a 16 to think? I didn't think of any of that.. By the time I had the next I was over the first time thing and then by the
5th it never goes how you want it to it just happens...you will be fine Adhis the nurses know what they are doing..just make Dave knows..that's who the plan is for anyway! HEHE those men....

James and Heather English said...

I have one question, what was the notary's reaction to all of this?!! Adhis you are so funny!

Adhis said...

I just wanted to make sure they knew that I don't want them to offer me pain meds, that I want external fetal monitoring (my doctor has a reputation of doing internal), and that I will eat if I wish to. OH, and that I'd like them to serve my water at a precise temperature of 72 degrees.

Nathalie Smith said...

Told ya sis!On the whole eating thing, its best to hide he food and not let them know, because they will not budge on that. The last thing you want to b doing is arguing with the nurse you'll be stuck with the whole time. I ate, I just didn't announce it. Make sure its light things, because you might be seeing them come back up, in labor. Eat early in your labor and you'll be safer. Especially if you plan on doing it with no meds. You will want to throw up cause the contractions are soo hard. (personally I've seen you handle pain, you don't do so well, my bet is on you getting it.)
Love ya.

As for the whole thing on why have a birth plan, it probably is taken more seriously in other states, but look where you live! They probably get like 10 births a second and have seen every so called birth plan and know that most all of them go out the window(If you had a midwife though it would be the way you wanted it).

Anywho~ love ya, miss ya! And good luck Just know to be very flexable and the most important thing is that lil Adhis comes out health.

Brooke said...

I too started to make a birth plan until someone informed me that it isn't necessary for the doctors and nurses and people would probably think I was retarded to have one. But great idea having one for the soon-to-be daddy. I'll have to remember that next time. You are too funny Adhis!

chelon:) said...

a birth plan?? what is a birth plan?? i love you :) you will be amazing parents!!

We're Wingin It said...

Happened to me too, but I didn't actually write up a plan. After the hospital childbirth class, just told my doctor I would prefer not to have the routine IV. Her response? You'll need it for your epi. But I don't want an epi. She just laughed and said, "You won't be able to do it." Jared and I both just felt a little beweildered. Um, what? It was irritating, but I had AWESOME nurses, and honestly she was only there for a couple minutes anyway. That is probably why the doc doesn't care--he is just coming in to catch the baby. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for wanting things done a certain way. And I agree--smuggle the food in. I think that policy is lame.

Kristen said...

Yeah, the nurses do most of the work. Your best preparation for labor is to PRAY that you get a good nurse! =o) I fully respect my doctors (although I've had a different one each time!) but they're not there the whole time.

There's nothing wrong with being first-time parents. I think it's quite refreshing! I'm sorry you felt silly by the end, but your plan has already helped you make some choices, so there!

Keep in mind that at one point I was thanking the heavens that they didn't let me eat anything. Maybe my type ruins it for everyone. =o)

Adhis said...

I don't mind feeling silly. (It runs in my family.) Dave and I laughed and joked about this for an hour afterwards.

I'm still going to give my nurses a birth plan despite the reception of one in Babytopia Utah. I did re-write it so it's freaking short, and I feel confident about giving it to my nurse and not feel awkward about it.

I did write a NOT SHORT one for my husband just to remind him how he can help me and how I feel about him playing on his laptop while I'm laboring.

Still planning on eating. Anyone know of a ZukaJuice/JambaJuice/Roxberry-like place near 400 North, Orem?

Kristen said...

When I hear that you have your baby, instead of asking how she is, I'm going to ask if Dave followed HIS birth plan. =o)

What hospital is at 400 N? Not Timpanogos?

It's about time for you to take a shower!

Heidi said...

I love this! I never thought to smuggle food in - dang! You ladies are SMART! I ate about a gallon of ice chips and then threw them all up. Even the nurse was like, "WOW. Where did all that water come from?" (Sorry for the horror story). It's great to have a plan, but be flexible. The nurses totally know what they are doing and know what is best for you AND the baby.

Holly said...

There's a Jamba Juice at 117 N. State Street in Orem.

Good luck!

Adhis said...

Yessssssssss....

Kikibug said...

You are the BEST! It only shows how great of parent y'all will be that you care so much to even plan the birth.
I agree with others, it is great to set boundaries so that you don't feel pushed around and can feel in control in a situation that often can feel overwhelming.
However, I DO understand why the Dr. chuckled b/c the baby will come how & when it will come. Just be flexible. Y'all will do GREAT!

mom adhis said...

I think planning the birth is important because you are able to establish what is desired, it is also good to be flexible with what comes on... just be happy for all the work when its done. Both you and Dave have gone through harder things, this will be another exciting chapter in your lives. If it was not so, TV shows would not have so many funnies of deliveries. :)
I love you both.

sorsofilia said...

I think it's dumb to FEEL dumb about creating/notarizing a birthing plan because hospitals can be so cold and brutal. My friend got an epidural without her consent, another got a potocin drip against her will. If you have a notarized birthing plan, they won't dare do these things to you. I guess it just depends on the birthing woman. Some people aren't really in touch with their bodies and are like sure do whatever to me as long as I don't know about it! Those would be the people that think you're silly and doctors are condescending assholes, hasn't anyone noticed? Geez. And being flexible in a hospital often means don't exercise discretion or bother the nurses and doctors. You're having a child, you should feel more entitled to your specific experience.